Image Dysmorphia: A Real Issue That Affects Influencers

image dysmorphia

Image dysmorphia” is a form of a depression caused by low self-confidence. Its definition describes an imagined reality where our reflection in the mirror or a photograph doesn’t match what’s actually there.

For example, we could be bullied for years because of our image, work very hard on improving it (not that we need to at all!), only to imaginarily see the person we were still staring back at us.

Sometimes, it goes beyond who we were, it could even be a case of seeing a different image entirely… Our loved ones may tell us “you look great”, but we sadly just won’t believe them.

image dysmorphia

Image dysmorphia is a very real thing, particularly in the influencer world.

Although most cases are brought on by a low self-confidence (stemming from bullying), there’s evidence to suggest it can even develop from social media, plastic surgery and image-editing apps.

I’m sure that I went through image dysmorphia at some stage… How else would you explain me editing my headshot selfies to the point of unrecognisable and getting fillers in my lips!? In those days, FaceTune and YouCamMakeup were my best friends!

Honestly, I’m just glad that I didn’t (and still don’t) know my way around Photoshop. Had I learned, it would’ve opened a whole other Pandora’s box that would’ve been harder to close.

Recognising Image Dysmorphia

🌟 The taking of / posting an excessive amount of selfies on social-media frequently is a sign of image dysmorphia

If we’re not happy with ourselves, we’ll try to convince ourselves and others to be, by taking & sharing countless selfies as a way of gaining gratification. We may even go as far as editing them to fit the ‘influencer’ mould – which is counter-intuitive, leaving us open to more criticism.


It’s fair to mention that influencers aren’t entirely to blame… Before we point the finger, we need to remember that they’re under a lot of pressure as it is. The media has an image to portray, and the influencer has to adhere to it if they want to earn a living. So, you see, the fault predominantly lies with the media for creating and continuing this false narrative.

There’s so much pressure from the media, and social-media in particular, to act or be a certain way! The world has lost all authenticity.

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🌟 Getting addicted to fillers or plastic surgery is another sign of image dysmorphia

As I explained above, I went through a phase where I was getting lip fillers quite regularly. It got so bad that I had to over-line my lips to disguise the botched job on them... After a few years, I decided to get them dissolved, vowing never to get them done again.

The problem with fillers or plastic surgery is: once we start, it’s hard to stop… It’s as if our mind gets programmed to see other flaws each time, the end result being: we lose sight of who we are!

TOWIE and country-music star Megan McKenna has also talked about the links between lip fillers and image dysmorphia… She too ended up removing her lip fillers, and now regrets ever getting them.

Curing image dysmorphia

Half the battle of curing image dysmorphia is realising that you have it in the first place. You can’t cure something until you notice the signs and admit there’s a problem.

Once you’ve identified it as an issue, try to train your mind to think positive affirmations… Speak them internally while you’re doing routine things like: brushing hair. It’s best to look in the mirror for this one.

Also, try talking to a therapist, ask for CBT [Cognitive Behavioural Training] is proven to treat image dysmorphia. I speak to a counsellor regularly, and it helps me a lot.

Counselling should be an affordable and standard human right in today’s society… It’s not enough to merely just tell people to “open up” without offering them an opportunity to do it! Point them in the right direction, give them the option at least.

Another way to cure image dysmorphia is by waiting to see if it’s a passing phase/fad… This isn’t ideal, and certainly not a recommendation for those who may need urgent care. However, in my case, I grew out of it. I learned to love myself!

The only other ways I can think of is praying if you’re faithful/spiritual and meditating on the word. I meditate a lot. “#AllMeditationEverything” is my mantra and chosen way of dealing with anything!

Want to share your thoughts on the topic? Hit me up in the comments!

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MLK Day: Children’s Books That Combat Racism

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Yesterday (18/01/2020) was Martin Luther King Day, marking 52 years since he was tragically assassinated.

The time is always right to do what is right.

Martin Luther King Jr.

The fact that racism is still prevalent in today’s society i.e. police brutality last year, and white supremacists storming Capitol building earlier this month, is horrifying.

They say that if we teach kids about racism from an early age, the injustices we face could one day be history! 🤞

So, I’ve put together a list of age-appropriate books which you can buy and read your kids at bedtime to help them become more aware.

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We March: I Have a Dream – Shane W. Evans

Seeing as this post is dedicated to Martin Luther King himself, I thought I’d start with a book which rewrites the empowering and unforgettable speech he gave in a way that kids of all ages can understand.

We Marchwas one of Kirkus Reviews’ Best Children’s Books of 2012, and is an important story about the African American civil rights movement.

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Sulwe – Lupita Nyong’o

Fun fact: Lupita is more than just an actress and model!

In this stunning picture book, Lupita creates a whimsical and heartwarming story which inspires children to see their own unique beauty.

Sulawe is a girl who was born with a unique midnight skin-tone, darker than those around her. Although she initially wants to be as bright or beautiful as her mum and sister, she later realises she’s even more-so after taking a magical trip into the night sky.

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Kamala and Maya’s Big Idea – Meena Harris

With President-elect Joe Biden and VP Kamala Harris’ inauguration just a day away, this book, written by Kamala’s niece Meena couldn’t be more apt!

Kamala and Maya’s Big Idea’ is beautiful and empowering… It tells the tale of two sisters who work with their community to effect change.

Its message is simple: choose courage over fear!

Fun Fact: Maya is Meena’s mum and Kamala Harris’ sister

Another fun fact: this picture book was inspired by a true-story from Kamala and Maya (a lawyer and policy expert) childhood.

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I Am One: A Book of Action – Susan Verde

Also a New York Times Bestseller, ‘I Am One’ is a timely, compelling picture book that gently encourages children to take action – both big or small – in a bid to inspire change.

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Not My Idea: A Book About Whiteness – Anastasia Higginbotham

Not My Idea’ is an age-appropriate book that openly discusses white-privilege.

It not only raises awareness of racism, but empowers the younger generation to work toward justice and to cultivate activism.

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Intersection Allies: We Make Room For All – Chelsea Johnson, LaToya Council and Carolyn Chai

Intersection Allies: We Make Room For All’ is a celebration of solidarity and community between nine girls from diverse backgrounds.

This book helps by showing the importance of a supportive community.

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Last Stop on Market Street – Matt De La Peña

If you’re looking for a picture book that focusses on responsibility, staying true to culture and finding fulfilment within our communities, ‘Last Stop on Market Street’ is the book for you!

It takes us on an energetic journey through a bustling city, highlighting the love and understanding between CJ and his grandmother.

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Black is a Rainbow Colour – Angela Joy

Black is a Rainbow Colour’ is a very moving book which reflects on the meaning of being a black person in an unbalanced community.

Its message is powerful, one of hope for the black community, a look at the culture, history, and legacy which lives on.

This book is an insightful and important read for children of all ages.

Other books include: All Are Welcome and All the Ways to be Smart.

Have you read these stories [or similar] to your kids? Let me know in the comments below…

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Netflix: The Fundamentals of Caring

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If you liked my post about The Healing Powers of Dude, you’ll probably like this one, about The Fundamentals of Caring.

With a cast including Paul Rudd and Selena Gomez, it just has to be good!

The plot of ‘The Fundamentals of Caring’:

The Fundamentals of Caring, released in 2016, tells the story of Ben (Paul Rudd), a writer who retires after experiencing a great loss in the family which changes his life forever.

The grief from his trauma results in him taking up caregiving, and that’s when he’s assigned Trevor – a stroppy 18-year-old who has a passion for landmarks (played by Craig Roberts).

Sadly, Trevor was diagnosed with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy as a baby, and has been confined to an electric wheelchair ever since. What’s worse is sadly, those with DMD don’t often make it past 30. 💔

Upon discovering that Trevor’s never been on holiday before, Ben suggests they take a road-trip to see his favourite landmarks…

During their trip, Ben and Trevor bump into Dot on the road, a hitchhiker (played by Selena Gomez) – who ends up joining them on their trip. They’re later joined by another companion: Peaches, a pregnant woman in need of a lift. The four of them journey together, facing demons that were buried deep along the way…

My opinion on the movie:

Watching ‘The Fundamentals of Caring’ was a roller-coaster ride of emotions. However, I enjoyed the good balance of drama and light-relief.

Its message is simple: there’s hope for everyone, no matter what you’ve been through or what your past is like.

The film is comforting, and a must-watch for people who are struggling because it reiterates what we already know deep down…

“Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end”

John Lennon

What about the cast?

The cast is an eclectic one to say the least, especially when you take their individual showbiz history into account…

I mean, Paul Rudd’s best know for playing Mike Hannigan in Friends. Selena starred in Wizards of Waverley Place and Craig Roberts played Rio Wellard in CBBC’s The Story of Tracy Beaker. The thought of the three of them acting in a drama just wouldn’t enter your mind… But, it actually works! 👏

I was blown away by Paul Rudd and Craig Roberts, in particular. The chemistry between them was unmatched!

As I said, Rudd is known for being a comedian – so seeing him in a different light was refreshing. His character was empathetic towards Trevor, he showed patience and resilience throughout. His performance was effortless, as was Craig’s.

And, if you remember Selena from Spring Breakers, you’ll know it wasn’t all that… I was glad she got the chance to showcase her talents here, though.

Overall, this is another one of those films that I recommend.

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The Healing Powers of Dude: A Netflix Original

The Healing Powers of Dude

Tonight, in a change to my Valentine’s Day series, I wanted to blog about a new (to me) Netflix original series called ‘The Healing Powers of Dude’.

As you may know, mental health and anxiety are topics I quite frequently discuss. And, ‘The Healing Powers of Dude’ is a must-watch for its lighthearted yet somewhat real portrayal of social-anxiety, particularly in the younger generation.

More than anything, I was glad to see Netflix streaming an original which focusses on mental-health without letting it play out in a dark or twisted way (like it did on 13 Reasons Why).

Plot of ‘The Healing Powers of Dude’:

This series, spanning across eight episodes, tells the story of 11-year-old Noah Ferris who is battling a social-anxiety disorder, which makes even the most simple tasks difficult…

Noah’s illness is so debilitating that he’s had to spend the years prior being homeschooled by his supportive parents.

In the first episode, Noah makes a brave decision to enrol into middle-school, and make friends with people who aren’t his family.

To help make school-life easier, Noah’s mum & dad get him an adorable emotional support dog called ‘Dude’ (hence the title: ‘The Healing Powers of Dude’) who – it’s clear from the start – has a larger than life personality! (Completely NOT a trait someone with social-anxiety would choose in another 😆)

Even though Dude has no experience in being an emotional support pet, he does have a short attention span which means he gets distracted by treats! 😂

Although Dude’s plans don’t always go to plan, he does succeed in giving Noah the courage to make friends with Simon (aka ‘Turbo’, another flamboyant character) and Amara.

The bond Noah and Dude have develops over time, and we finally start seeing Noah come out of his shell. 👏

Even though they have their fair share of fights, Dude sticks around through the highs & lows helping Noah face his fears, open up to his classmates about his disorder, and even bag himself a love interest, Valerie!

Basically: Dude is Noah’s wingpup, and I’m here for it! 🐶

My honest review of ‘The Healing Powers of Dude’:

Look, I’m not saying this show has the best acting I’ve ever seen, far from it, but at least the portrayal is somewhat relatable.

While I absolutely agree the special-effects seem exaggerated, what we have to remember is: it actually feels like this for people suffering with social-anxiety.

Now, the comedic spin of the show made it a little more lighthearted and family-friendly, something I kind of liked… Although, I do admit it is quite slapstick! 🙈

The main negative that I’ll pick up on is: from what I’ve heard, it’s not yet possible to take pets to school (or class) as emotional-support. So, that part’s definitely fabricated. Having said that, overall ‘The Healing Powers of Dude’ is definitely worth a watch.

Have you seen this Netflix original? What were your thoughts? Comment below… ☺️

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Black LivesMatter

Rest in Peace George Floyd and all others we lost through police & racist brutality

I wasn’t going to blog today but I realised that I have a platform to educate, enlighten and inform – so if this post helps just one person understand the movement better, that’s good enough for me…

This is an international problem, not just an American problem

The disturbing truth is that 2020 years in, the issue of racism still exists. The fact that there isn’t any sign of it seemingly ending is worrying and disgusting all the same.

What does it take to be a decent human who accepts everyone as they are, for who they are? How hard is it not to oppress, not discriminate, not be a cruel, heartless and brutally-minded person? How hard is to be a decent, ‘normal‘ human?

The reality is – we all have a choice. We all have a choice to educate ourselves – and more importantly – to do and be better.

Below is a video clearly showing a Caucasian child and a black child greeting each other with a warm hug. The moral of the story is, nobody is born racist. Racism is taught. Therefore, love and acceptance of race can be taught too.

‘Why isn’t it?’ I hear you ask… Well, it would seem the world is a corrupt place. It’s up to us to change that. The more we speak up, the more we open up, the more we sign petitions, the closer we will be to making a change. Please. Don’t. Loot.

Ways to get involved with supporting the black community

  1. Donate to bail funds
  2. Donate to the Black Lives Matter Initiative
  3. Support minority owned businesses
  4. Sign a petition
  5. Educate yourself
  6. Follow BLM updates handles on social-media

It’s sickening to see what’s happening in America… But, the reality is, this was a ticking time-bomb… It was only a matter of time before the world revolted and decided ‘enough is enough’.

Racism shouldn’t be welcomed anywhere, least of all in society. The most beautiful thing to come out of what’s happening in the US, is seeing the solidarity between nations.

Although it seems like the world has come a long way since the awful days of slavery, disturbing racism videos prove that it’s very much still alive – and we as a society have a long way to go to get to the place where there is ethnic unity…

I, along with the rest of the world (population of which understand that racism isn’t moral or ethically correct) really don’t want George Floyd’s death to be just another statistic. We want his case to be brought to justice, and for this to be the end of both police and wider-world brutality.

We stand with the black community. We fight for the black community.

Earth would not be its beautiful, continental, and exotic self (excluding the bullies and barbarians) without the black community. The black community deserves better.

If you’d like to be better educated about the subject, see below for a list of useful resources.

Want to sign a petition?

Colour of Change petition to charge all officers involved with George Floyds murder be charged with murder petition for jusitce for George Floyd

Black Lives Matter, two petitions you can sign to help black communities dealing with coronavirus and demanding racial data.

Want to donate?

Official George Floyd Memorial Fund Go Fund Me Page

List of funds for victims from Black Lives Matter

List of ways you can donate to help protestors

Important places you can donate to including the BLM Fund

Want to peacefully protest in the UK?

UK Protest Information

What to bring and wear to a protest

Brighton Protest Information

Want to listen and educate yourself about racism by listening to a podcast?

Code: Switch NPR – “Hosted by journalists of color, our podcast tackles the subject of race head-on.” Explores everything from pop culture, to politics, to sport. Race impacts every part of life.

Momentum: A Race Forward – Features movement voices, stories, and strategies for racial justice.

Intersectionality Matters! – Intersectionality Matters! is a podcast hosted by Kimberlé Crenshaw, an American civil rights advocate and a leading scholar of critical race theory.

About Race – Hosted by Reni Eddo-Lodge

Nova Reid and Vicki & Selina from loveprojectlove – A powerful conversation about race, racism and white privilege with Nova Reid

Want to read and educate yourself about racism?

Why I’m No Longer Talking To White People About Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge. Reni is also asking people who buy her book to purchase from small independent sellers or better yet borrow from a friend and spend the money on donating.

Me and White Supremacy: How to Recognise Your Privilege, Combat Racism and Change the World by Layla F. Saad.

White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo. Find Robin’s other literature, podcasts, articles and more here.

I Am Not Your Baby Mother by Candice Braithwaite

So You Want To Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo

Girl, Woman, Other by Bernardine Evaristo

Race Matters by Cornel West

I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a world made for whiteness by Austin Channing Brown

Want to watch and educate yourself about racism?

When They See Us – Netflix – “Five teens from Harlem become trapped in a nightmare when they’re falsely accused of a brutal attack in Central Park. Based on the true story”

I Am Not Your Negro – Documentary Amazon – “The memoir recounts the lives of James Baldwin’s close friends and civil rights leaders Malcolm X, Martin Luther King Jr., and Medgar Evers.”

Dear White People – Netflix

The Hate U Give -Hulu

What happens when I try to talk race with white people – YouTube – Insightful short video featuring Renni Eddo-Lodge (author of Why I’m No Longer Talking To White People About Race) that sums up the issues when discussing racism with white people.

White People, Enough: A Look at Power and Control | Jaelyn Coates | TEDxCSU

Let’s get to the root of racial injustice | Megan Ming Francis | TEDxRainier

Not all Superheros wear capes-how you have the power to change the world | Nova Reid | TEDxFrankfurt

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Coronavirus and Mental Health: The Importance of Gratitude


Another post about Coronavirus and the last that I will write…

So, right now, it’s tough. I’m not the first, nor the last person that will remind you of this. I mean, it’s the hardest thing to escape. The whole world is gripped by this pandemic. The whole world is at its feet, life as we know it has ground to a halt.

The purpose of this post is to take the shine away from the three biggest problems and highlight the millions of little blessings. It’s human nature to focus on our problems as opposed to the solutions… But, now it’s more important than ever to stop.

Research shows that a weak mental health has detrimental effects to our immune system. Of course, we need a high immune system to function and beat/prevent this virus.

Let’s start being grateful for the little blessings that [in the grand scheme of things] outweigh the three of our biggest problems… The world is being forced to acclimatise to a new way of living, so we might as well change our way of thinking!

Three problems we face because of Coronavirus

  1. Coronavirus fear of catching & spreading it.
  2. Being restricted from the outside world – bad mental health and/or being in a domestically toxic household.
  3. Not seeing our loved ones in person.

And now for a list of all the things we have to be thankful and grateful for, everyday blessings we forget to focus on or even take for granted…

Three things to be grateful for since Coronavirus

  1. Good health. We ourselves are not suffering from the complications of Coronavirus.
  2. Healthcare. First world countries have the best healthcare. The NHS in England is doing an amazing job all things considered… Also, it’s still possible for us to contact our GP and pharmacy via phone, or have things delivered to our home address.
  3. Waking up every morning. Think of all those not making it through the night, not just because of Coronavirus, but every other disease and/or natural causes.
  4. Breathing!? The people who are sadly and tragically suffering from the worst strain of Coronavirus and/or pneumonia can’t even do this unaided…
  5. A roof over our heads. Homelessness isn’t eradicated because of this virus… There are still people out there with no home.
  6. Food on the table. People in third world countries are suffering from hunger as well as Coronavirus. Our supermarkets might be limited, but there is still stock. It’s still possible for us to get the basics of what we need.
  7. Our jobs – even if furloughed. We can work from home or if not (in case of furlough) there is still money coming in. There are people out there that are sadly jobless.
  8. Technology. We live in a time when we can FaceTime our loved ones, and this helps us feel less alone.
  9. Home gardens/balconies. There are people out there that don’t have a garden at home and can’t enjoy the summer weather that the UK has been getting.
  10. Avoidance of natural disasters. Speaking of the weather, do you know how lucky we are not to be in a country that is being torn to shreds by bushfires, earthquakes, typhoons or hurricanes?
  11. Avoidance of war. Do you know how lucky we are to not be in a war-torn country while all this is going on?
  12. Having self-isolation buddies/housemates. There are people out there that are self-isolating alone, have nobody to speak to and watch TV or eat at the dining table with.
  13. Saving finances. We are all saving so much by not having to travel and get lunch at work. Also, any holidays, festivals or gigs we booked are being refunded or converted to credits to re-book at a later date.
  14. The ability to soul search. Now is the best time to do some soul-searching and self-discovery. There are no distractions.
  15. The ability to go out for walks to clear our heads. Most countries that experienced lockdown were locked in their houses, weren’t even allowed out for an hour or exercise. They had to carry an official note to say “leaving to pick up prescription / doctor appointment / buy items required from shopping list” or risk imprisonment or a serious fine.
  16. The free time. We have so much time on our hands to watch that boxset, read that book, study that course (more on this later), learn to cook, learn to clean, make more memories with those we live with but don’t see because of other commitments.
  17. Studying. The Open University is offering FREE courses to study anything from Maths, Science and English to Psychology, Languages and Finance in the comfort of your own home – online – at your own pace. Go find your calling!
  18. Free to do what we want, when we want (indoors). The saddest part of lockdown is that there are people out there who used to use the outdoors as an escape from indoor domestic violence. Do you know how lucky we are to be in a safe home where we are not made to feel victim?
  19. This is just temporary. This isn’t permanent. We will be reunited with our loved ones.

19 whole reasons to be grateful that I can think of… Three problems. Now do you see? Shift that thinking to change your life.

Final words on Coronavirus

Of course, there are some really awful drawbacks to lockdown that should never be ignored. Mental health and.. If you are victim of domestic violence, please visit:




You are not alone.

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COVID-19: Prevention Vitamins To Boost Your Immune System


In a change to my usual blog posts, I wanted to write one relevant to the current situaton.

It’s a very challenging time to say the least, but I’m here to hopefully offer some advice.

What we know about COVID-19

It’s a respiratory-system attacking virus that thrives on low immune systems. The older and/or weaker your immune and respiratory systems are, the higher risk you are of contracting the more severe symptoms.

Although there is no cure or tablet to take for preventing COVID-19, there are some supplements that we can take to support our immune system.

Boosting our immune & respiratory systems against Covid-19

We’re all asking the same questions… How do we boost our immune and respiratory systems?

Vitamins. Exercise. Sleep. Essential Oils. Limiting exposure to the outside world, taking protective measure when needed.

Vitamins to take protect against Covid-19

Vitamin C – found in fruits and vegetables. In the US, some doctors treated COVID-19 patients with 1500mg Vitamin C dissolving tablets. Why? Well, Vitamin C is vital for boosting the immune system.

Here’s a news story that backs this claim

Vitamin D – can found in sunlight and supplements/spray form. Vitamin D is very important for the immune system. Flu and colds are at their weakest in summer… Why? Well, the sun is out. And, the sun is the best and main source of Vitamin D. Vitamin D supplements are vital during the winter and autumn months, as they keep flues and colds at bay.

Here’s an article that supports this point

Omega 3, 6, 9 – you can get Omega 3, 6, 9 from fish and Cod Liver Oil. Beware: Cod Liver Oil capsules tend to lead to a reflux, which brings the fish oil back up… Gross!

For more information on taking fish oil supplements during this Coronavirus pandemic, click here

Zinc – found in fish, some vegetables, beans/pulses, seeds and some nuts. It supports the growth and development of healthy immune cells. The healthier the immune cells, the better the likelihood of beating or preventing this virus.

Find out more about the benefits of zinc by clicking here

Vitamin B Complex – Vitamin B helps the body make new red blood cells, which carry oxygen throughout the body. It also helps keep the immune system strong. Biotin is essential for healthy hair, nails, and nerve function.

More information on Vitamin B Complex

Vitamin E – a powerful antioxidant that helps the body fight off infection. Foods rich in vitamin E include nuts, seeds and spinach.

Read all about vitamin E

Vitamin A – new research suggests that vitamin A helps the immune system ‘forget’ past infections, supports to build immunity, and leads to a more tolerant immune system lessening likelihood of infection.

Vitamin A – the benefits

All these supplements, although not proven to cure or prevent coronavirus itself have been proven to increase and strengthen the immune system. According to what we know, a strong immune system is what we need to fight this virus. It’s a no-brainer really…

Other ways to protect against Covid-19



Do a home video, or go out for a walk/run… Move more where and when possible.



Sleep for eight hours, and sleep deeply. Having problems doing this? Spraying lavender oil on pillows before sleeping helps. Also, practice sleep hygiene.


Essential Oils

Essential Oils? Oregano oil and doTERRA Onguard.

Having regular steam baths help. Infusing essential oils into a steam bath (bowl of boiling water), stand with head over it, placing a towel over your head as you inhale helps to support, clear the respiratory system, cleansing it of any blockages.


Limit going outside

Don’t go out for picnics or to celebrate 420. Go out for walks or to get food. But, wear gloves and masks while out, to protect yourself.

Please stay safe, stay well and stay blessed. Special thanks to those at the front-line from retail employees who stack our supermarket shelves, to the medics that treat us and delivery people that deliver our parcels. Without them, it’d be much, much worse.

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